Mother’s Day Musings
I like this book title because it explains how I’ve been feeling. Who is my Mother? And how can I become like her?
No, I’m not adopted, let me explain.
The lesson I heard in church last Sunday during our all women’s portion of the meeting, known as “Relief Society”, got me thinking all week long. A story of a mother was read, who rescued her baby daughter in a fire, but lost her husband and was left to raise the child alone. While raising her daughter, this private and brave woman, kept the story of the rescue that explained her gimpy limp, her thin hair and red ruddy skin from the fire to her self. The daughter is embarrassed of her mother’s appearance and awkward walk, until someone tells her of the sacrifice and love her mother went through for her. This beautiful woman, in great sacrifice, assumed an altered physical form to be able to raise her daughter.
But what stayed most with me, was the fact that the woman giving the lesson said, “On Mother’s day, I like to think of my Heavenly Mother.”
Yes, in our religion, we believe the family on earth is patterned after our eternal family. That is why marriage between man and woman is so sacred, in my religion. While I digress from the topic of this post, I feel it important to make clear my beliefs in the roles of men and women, and hope knowledge of what makes a union sacred will even enhance the topic at hand, even the subject of my Heavenly Mother.
My interpretation as follows, is stated prophetically in our prophet’s monumental document, A Proclamation to the Family,
If God himself is perfect, and He commands marriage to be between man and woman, then he Himself is married. Marriage then, between unselfish man and woman, is what will bring the most happiness to mankind. We believe in marriage, a binding contract, between man and woman, to be blessed and ordained by God, and to be the highest and holiest path for happiness. Within this contract, both individuals make sacred promises of loyalty, and strive to create a family together. If they are blessed with children both naturally, or equally through adoption, they sacrifice continually to raise these children unto the Lord.
This union and self sacrificing service and loyalty being so important that it supersedes feelings of attraction, and results in feelings and relationships more important and happy than mere attraction could create.
Studies have shown that some people literally are wired to constantly experience attraction to many different people of the opposite sex during their life, while others are wired to easily be loyal to one person. But even those who with much difficulty make sacred promises to a spouse, can ‘bear up their cross’ by taking these feelings to the Savior, allowing His help in subduing their passions to many, can faithfully stay loyal to a spouse of the opposite gender. Following this course will, in God’s ultimate plan of happiness, bring the greatest joy.
Alternatively, some individuals are attracted to the same sex, and still, we believe that their greatest happiness in life will be found by adhering to the laws of chastity as disclosed in the scriptures and the said document, A Proclamation to the Family, and can also find greatest joy by obeying the laws of chastity as given in this life, and if possible in finding a conceding spouse of the opposite sex who will support them in their efforts to subdue their feelings through the loving help of the Savior; while choosing to serve and love that companion of the opposite sex all their days, and rearing children together in sacrifice and love. See Same Sex Attraction.
Each of us need the Savior, no matter what our imperfections are. We wrestle the natural man every day, with Christ’s help, that we may become holy and happier.
I want to become as my Heavenly Mother
To me, it is wonderful to know I have a Heavenly Mother. This week, when I went out to my garden, I realized how much I wanted to pattern my life, after Hers. And I realized that I could only do that, if I perfected myself through the help of the Savior, as she, Herself, is perfect, and I am far from.
The Savior is my Hope and Joy! He makes it possible that I can become someone as lovely and as noble as She.
Who do we pray to?
But in my religion, though we are taught we come from Heavenly Parents, we hardly ever refer to her directly, though we speak of Heavenly Parents frequently, and we certainly do not pray to our Heavenly Mother. I learned why when recently I read a talk by former prophet, President Hinkley, entitled, “Daughters of God.” He taught us that Christ himself set the pattern in showing us by example, that we pray to the Father.
…“The Lord Jesus Christ set the pattern for our prayers. In the Sermon on the Mount, He declared:
‘After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.’ (Matt. 6:9; italics added here and in following references.)
“When the resurrected Lord appeared to the Nephites and taught them, He said: ‘After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name.’ (3 Ne. 13:9.)
“While He was among them, He further taught them by example and precept concerning this practice. The record states that ‘He himself also knelt upon the earth; and behold he prayed unto the Father, and the things which he prayed cannot be written, and the multitude did bear record who heard him.’ (3 Ne. 17:15.)
“Furthermore, He said: ‘Pray in your families unto the Father, always in my name, that your wives and your children may be blessed.’ (3 Ne. 18:21.)…”
Now if we were to look at this with earthly reasoning, we could think, why? This could seem altogether strange and unnatural to only approach our Father and not both of our parents.
Interestingly, though I don’t know all the answers, and what I know may not be all the way correct, I ran into something to make me ponder even more in helping me to realize, we just don’t understand the full picture when at face value it doesn’t make sense that we pray only to our Father. I ran into a chapter in the Bible, that states, that the Egyptian women began to walk in haughtiness. They began to pray to the “Queen of Heaven”, which in title sounds lovely until you read, that they were walking in pride, that they began to disobey God’s laws, and worst, deny the Lord.
16 As for the word that thou hast spoken unto us in the name of the Lord, we will not hearken unto thee.
17 But we will certainly do whatsoever thing goeth forth out of our own mouth, to burn incense unto the queen of heaven, and to pour out drink offerings unto her, as we have done, we, and our fathers, our kings, and our princes, in the cities of Judah, and in the streets of Jerusalem: for then had we plenty of victuals, and were well, and saw no evil. Jeremiah 44
Because I am the author of this blog, and can, I will take the liberty of interpreting things in the light I see them.
Throughout Greek, Egyptian, and Roman history, you learn of a people’s belief of many gods. Personally I think those fantastic, interesting and fairy sounding tales were founded in truth, and that gods such as Isis and Osiris for example of Egyptian descent, were founded in knowledge of our own true God, and His sacred wife. From my own study, I believe each of these cultures took this knowledge or inference of Heavenly Mother through given knowledge of Heavenly Father and Heavenly Parents, and began to run with it. Perhaps people from these cultures would take a problem to God and when it wasn’t answered in the way they wanted they would take it to the other parent, like a child does between his or her father and mother. Pretty soon these Gods were pitted against each other in the individual’s mind, and these gods became patterned after themselves, with weaknesses full of jealousies, deceits, and lasciviousness, as the gods they created and worshiped justified and enabled each individual in the walk he or she wanted to take.
Profound Trust with the Male Patriarchal Paternal Link Crucial to our Intimate Essential Connection with Christ
But most of all, I believe our Heavenly Mother is so modest, that she understands that if we come to her as Mother, and who wouldn’t rather run to mother for a hug and empathy, rather than father; In coming to our mother, we could bypass the most important individual of all….our Savior… as we see happened in the case of the Egyptian women depicted in Jeremiah 44 who rejected their Lord…” verse 16 “As for the word that thou hast spoken unto us in the name of the Lord, we will not hearken unto thee…”
I believe She knows that while she can mourn with us, it is crucial that we come to our Savior who only felt each of our pain and sin, from our perspective, personally and intimately, and He only can redeem us physically and spiritually. She knows that it is only through Him, that we can find salvation. And once we begin to relate to the tender womanly side, there is a good chance that many of us, especially those many of us abused in some way by men, will close our minds to the crucial male author of our salvation…even Christ the Lord.
I believe that ultimate trust must be established between our Patriarachal Father, even our Heavenly Father, that we might be able to make the intimate relationship with Christ who is male, even our only gateway to Salvation who suffers our sins for us that our fallen state can’t keep us from returning home to God, if we choose to repent. This is so crucial, this trust in a Patriarachal source of love, that She sacrifices us knowing very much about her. But we will one day, know her like the back of our hand and exult in her every quality.
These thoughts are of course, my own opinion. Sculpted after thought, studying, pondering, and discussions with my husband. But this much I know and believe. Christ is the champion of women. Said James E. Talmage, “The world’s greatest champion of woman and womanhood is Jesus the Christ.’ (I heard this beautiful quote from the blog: Women in the Scriptures) It was Christ’s mother whom he last looked after tenderly before death; it was Mary a woman, he first visited as resurrected Lord. (For more lovely examples see The Women of God, by former Apostle Neal A. Maxwell)
Though our Mother in Heaven is queen of all Modesty, and heaven knows if she wanted to be more known because it would be for our greatest good, she would make a way, she is a Goddess after all….and yet, I believe she sacrifices this abundant knowledge of her for our greatest good, to ensure that as many as possible might come to our Lord, and Savior, the Mediator between Justice and Mercy….even Christ, that we might be saved…and thereby come home to our Heavenly Home, to live with our Heavenly Parents once again.
For a brief moment, she allows us to come to her through the Father that we might find the Champion of our Salvation of Christ, that we might become like her, and soon, so soon, back to her loving bosom and shining graceful, delightful, endless beauty.
Though modest, she is not lost. Though sacred, she is not absent. Who is mercy in scriptures? Mercy seeketh her own. Who is Justice? Justice makes his claim.
For behold, justice exerciseth all his demands, and also mercy claimeth all which is her own; and thus, none but the truly penitent are saved.
And who is Zion, Zion being the place where the pure in heart are gathered? She is.
For the Lord shall comfort Zion: he will comfort all her waste places; and he will make her wilderness like Eden, and her desert like the garden of the Lord; joy and gladness shall be found therein, thanksgiving, and the voice of melody.
And who is earth, the abundant beautiful giver of life? She is.
And the tree of the field shall yield her fruit, and the earth shall yield her increase, and they shall be safe in their land, and shall know that I am the Lord, when I have broken the bands of their yoke, and delivered them out of the hand of those that served themselves of them.
I can only find her, and become as she is, by finding Jesus Christ.
Sacred Personal Experiences, with accompanying background
I want to share some personal occurrences with you…and I share only because I want this for you, reader, woman and women, wherever you are, to know…be it one woman, be it a handful, be it as many as possible…that you can have similar experiences for your own self, but tailored to you.
I take alone time as the rare opportunities present themselves, just to take some time to heal with the Lord. Who knows what the issue might be, but I pray it will come forth. Sometimes I need to repent and God bless repentance, its real! I feel so much better and the Lord wipes away my guilt and then gives me insight into what needs changing and ability to change it!
Sometimes when I treat myself to healing, I pray for whatever needs to come forward, to come forward. Sometimes memories come forward, sometimes incorrect beliefs come forward, and I take them to the Savior and heal in them and let the light of his love help to change those incorrect feelings and thoughts, sometimes caused by the memory. This often brings tears, in-fact usually does, and though experiencing a painful memory or realization of a source of pain, may sound scary, in all truth, when its healed in Him, the result is less and less pain, as the onion layers of my life are turned over to Him and healed.
I tell you all this to take you to an issue that has come up multiple times, and from multiple angles…whether or not I was pretty. I suppose this could sound like a vain desire to know, but though the world pollutes beauty, and commercializes it, I believe it is a righteous and fitting need and desire, to be and feel beautiful.
Once when I took this little healing session to the Lord, (and I realized I needed these healing sessions through a book called Healing Codes which says that healing is best achieved when approached and vehiclized through God…but I knowing that the Savior is our Healer, work through Him to approach God and healing…) I experienced a glorious and wonderful outpouring of love. I had a memory that came forth that was a painful one from the past. In it some good was said, but some crucial things were not said, and in not being said, was bitterly painful. In healing, I said the correct words to myself that I should have heard. I then asked my Dear and Good Heavenly Father, if he thought I was pretty. And in my own thoughts it seemed, but with Heavenly Light, and a certain feeling pouring from heaven of love, came the thought, that I was beautiful to my Heavenly Father and that I was in-fact beautiful like unto my Heavenly Mother. And that I was patterned after her. Tears were streaming down my face that this could possibly true….I cry as I write it.
Then, later that day, in case I felt this was all my own creation as the words came to my own thoughts in my own head voice, and while watching a little program on television unrelated to the topic, the thoughts came pouring down from heaven again, from my dear and good Heavenly Father once more. Pouring down as if it were light and hugs all at the same town, “You are so so so so beautiful, you are patterned after your Heavenly Mother. You are so so so pretty to me.”
Though this experience came to me, I know it applies to you, and can be yours if you seek it, but given in just the way you need. I know that all women are beautiful as they heal in Christ and feel His love. Does that cheapen it that everyone is beautiful, does that make it a generic phrase? No, not at all. Have you seen an ugly flower, oh no, all different but all beautiful in their own particular style…and I believe flowers are an archetype of women, and women are each truly beautiful as we discover our true identity, heal in Christ, and begin to live after Him, we begin to shine, and the scales of ugliness or darkness or hate fall away. I know that we women who seek pureness of heart, who seek to keep our hearts tender, and who seek Christ, will gain beautiful feet. Beautiful feet? Let me explain.
Mosiah 15: 15-17
15 And O how beautiful upon the mountains were their feet!
16 And again, how beautiful upon the mountains are the feet of those that are still publishing peace!
17 And again, how beautiful upon the mountains are the feet of those who shall hereafter publish peace, yea, from this time henceforth and forever!
So you see, its a figurative phrase describing the active role of a disciple in God’s work, and they are beautiful beings. Yes, sometimes, I see my God given beauty, but many times, I just can’t believe that I’m beautiful, but I do know pure eyes are beautiful and I can hope that even stubby, fat, hobbit feet such as mine can be beautiful when they are choosing the right, and one day I will be glorified and receive all that is our’s eternally physically and spiritually;
Yes, if we women live each day seeking Christ, we will one day hug both our Heavenly Father and our Heavenly Mother, and in Christ become glorified in any physical set-backs we may carry in this life in our temporal weak existence; and in that day know that we are as beautiful, glorious, shiny and wonderful as our Mother…but you see, our God sees us in our eternal glory even now in our imperfected state, and so, we can believe fully when He tells us we are Beautiful, that we in Fact, Are, even in our Eternal Identities.
Of this returning to our Home, poetically stated by deceased, apostle Neal A. Maxwell, in
The Women of God:
“Finally, remember: When we return to our real home, it will be with the “mutual approbation” of those who reign in the “royal courts on high.” There we will find beauty such as mortal “eye hath not seen”; we will hear sounds of surpassing music which mortal “ear hath not heard.” Could such a regal homecoming be possible without the anticipatory arrangements of a Heavenly Mother?
Meanwhile, there are no separate paths back to that heavenly home. Just one straight and narrow way, at the end of which, though we arrive trailing tears, we shall at once be “drenched in joy.” I so testify in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.”
Seeking Christ, we become as is our destiny, to be like unto her, even our Glorious, Dear, Kind, Gentle, Strong, Beautiful, Brave, Faithful, Loving Mother, of whom we will return to both of our Sweetest and Mightiest parents.